How to Support a Friend Who Has Lost a Loved One

When someone close to you loses a loved one, it can be difficult to know what to say or how best to help. Many of us worry about saying the wrong thing or feel unsure of what our grieving friend might need. At Gaunts of Kidderminster, we often hear families say that the support of friends made a huge difference in those first difficult weeks.

Here are some gentle ways you can be there for a friend who is grieving.

1. Be Present and Listen

Sometimes the most valuable thing you can do is simply be there. You don’t need to have the perfect words — often, a listening ear means more than advice.

Tip: Allow your friend to talk if they want to, or to sit in silence if that feels right. Your presence itself can be comforting.

2. Offer Practical Help

Grief can make even simple tasks feel overwhelming. Offering to help with everyday responsibilities can ease some of the burden.

Tip: Be specific with your offers. Instead of saying “Let me know if you need anything,” try offering to cook a meal, do some shopping, or give them a lift.

3. Respect Their Grief

Everyone grieves differently. Some may want company, while others prefer time alone. Respecting their pace and choices is important.

Tip: Avoid setting expectations such as “You’ll feel better soon.” Grief takes time, and there is no set timeline.

4. Remember Important Dates

Anniversaries, birthdays, and special occasions can be especially difficult after a loss. Marking these dates shows your friend that you haven’t forgotten their loved one.

Tip: A simple message, card, or phone call on these days can bring great comfort.

5. Encourage Professional Support if Needed

While friends can provide emotional comfort, sometimes professional bereavement support can be very helpful.

Tip: If your friend seems to be struggling, gently suggest organisations such as Cruse Bereavement Support, or ask if they’d like you to help them find local resources.

6. Keep Checking In

Support shouldn’t end after the funeral. Grief continues long after others have moved on, so ongoing kindness can make all the difference.

Tip: Regular texts, phone calls, or invitations — even months later — remind your friend that they are not alone.

Being a True Friend in Difficult Times

Supporting a grieving friend doesn’t mean having all the answers — it simply means showing up with kindness, patience, and understanding.

At Gaunts of Kidderminster, we’ve seen how the support of friends can help families through one of life’s hardest times. Even small gestures of care can bring comfort.

If you or someone you know needs advice or support following a bereavement, please contact Gaunts of Kidderminster. Our compassionate team is always here to help.